Saturday, October 4, 2008

The 5 Love Languages!

We had an interesting (but good) lesson in church last Sunday. It was about the 5 love languages. This discovery by Gary Chapman says that we have different love languages. The languages being: Quality Time, Recieving Gifts, Physical Touch, Acts of Service, and Words of Affirmation. I was a little concerned at first as to whether or not this lesson would include the teachings of Christ in it but, I'll admit, once the teacher wrapped up the lesson it was pretty well balanced and it ended on a strong spiritual note.

Her handouts were 2 tests we can take. One for the husband and one for the wife. John and I took these tests and our guesses as to what the other persons love language is was right. It was a good reminder though.

The eye opener for me was when I asked Tyra and Ethan the questions to this test. (The words obviously had to be changed and simplified). The outcome was a huge eye opener for me in that after I discovered what their love language was so many things clicked in place. (Oh, so that's why you always do this or ask for that?)
And I especially enjoyed when, after discovering the result, I would ask them so you like it when mommy and daddy do this or that don't you? And both Ty and Ethan genuinely and sincerely looked me in the eyes and said, "yes." and then yearned for some of their love language after we had talked about it.

It's made a difference in our home. How so? Because if one of the kids are getting cranky or really acting up I just figure that more than likely they're lacking the kind of love that they can interpret as love. So we clearly and easily know OK this person is needing this type of love. We give it and it works miracles. It's really been a blessing in our lives. And made things even happier and healthier in our home.
It's interesting how we all hunger for love. And interesting also, is that we hunger for it in different ways from others.
Here's a link to one of the quizzes. Like I said, just simplify what it's asking, for the kids. (I always began with - "would you rather...") They'll know which one they like more and the outcome may be surprising!

And see directions as to how to interpret the outcome here.

Hope this helps to bring a little more love into your lives!


Rochelle said...

Sweet, I'll have to check it out. I read that book and LOVED it!! But it was before I had kids, I'll have to re read it with the kids in mind, and have them take the test = THANKS!

Emily said...

This is very interesting, I will have to check it out!
As far as what traditions I have started there aren't a ton. Lately I have really wanted to start some new one's for our family. I love having fun memories from my childhood so I want my kids to have the same.
We try to go every year and cut down our own Christmas tree and that is a tradition that we love. We also have a tradition of having a huge breakfast on Christmas morning that my Dad always makes. I want to do some more so if you have any cute ideas let me know. Ü

Chris and Tara said...

Chris and I read that book and really enjoyed. We both knew what our individual languages were and we were pretty close on each others. My main one is physical touch and so Chris will randomly poke me in the arm and tell me, "I'm speaking your language". Ü
I'm sorry for your frustruating "wedding friend". I agree that there are a lot of people who have had major schooling that I don't find intelligent but others with no college that are amazingly smart.

Shian said...

One of the patients at my office gave us The Five Love Languages as a wedding gift. It has really changed my thinking. It's one of the best books I've ever read.